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Two's A Crowd
a documentary film by Jim and Tom Isler

Marriage, Living Apart Together, Cohabitation and the Economy
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Of Love and Fungus
By Frank Bruni, New York Times (July 20, 2013)

“The LAT [Living Apart Together] life is healthy, according to all the studies. O.K., one study. ... The couples in commuter relationships said that their conversations were less frequent but deeper. They confessed more, listened harder and experienced a greater sense of intimacy.”

Living Apart Together
By Constance Rosenblum, New York Times (Sept. 13, 2013)

“Many people set up housekeeping together simply to help foot the rent bill. But some couples, both those in longtime relationships and the officially married, follow a less-traveled path. They live in separate homes — on different floors of the same building, down the block from one another, in different neighborhoods, even in different boroughs.”

Couples together apart: We're close...just not that close
The Independent (Oct. 19, 2010)

“...[M]ost LATs [Living Apart but Together] do it because they like it, because it suits both of them to be independent of each other at the same time as having the security of knowing there's always someone ‘there’ for them long-term.”

Couples that live apart . . . stay together
By Rosemary Bennett, The Times (May 12, 2007)

“...New research estimates that there are now as many as two million couples who, despite being in a committed relationship, live separately. The number of couples who live apart together (LATs) is now roughly the same as those who live under the same roof.”

Some couples are happy together, living apart
By Amy Dickinson, Chicago Tribune (via TorontoSun.com) (Feb. 14, 2011)

“We are now . . . approaching our 24th anniversary and still in our respective homes! . . . When we recently purchased new condos, we made sure we were still next-door neighbours. . . . We feel we have the best of both worlds.”

Author explores the agitation of cohabitation
By Benjamin Gedan, Boston Globe (via SFgate.com) (Nov. 12, 2003)

“...Recent interviews with newly cohabiting couples revealed experiences ranging from domestic disaster to fairy-tale bliss.” (discussing Unmarried to Each Other: The Essential Guide to Living Together as an Unmarried Couple by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller)

One Couple, Two Houses and the Bridge in Between
By Joyce Wadler, New York Times (Oct. 12, 2011)

“[S]kyrocketing taxes forced Mr. Douglas to give up his place. ... [T]hey built a separate studio for Mr. Douglas ... that is connected to Ms. Lanahan's house with a bridge: a 20-foot plant-filled overpass. ... There were a number of factors that led to this unusual arrangement, but high on the list was the need for a room of one's own.”

Does Absence Actually Make the Heart Grow Fonder?
By Jessica Grose, Slate (Sept. 23, 2011)

“A review of relevant research confirms that there can be positive aspects to time spent apart from a spouse — at least for wives.”
(reviewing The Secret Lives of Wives: Women Share What It Really Takes To Stay Married by Iris Krasnow)

Who needs marriage? A changing institution
By Belinda Luscombe, Time (Nov. 18, 2010)

“[T]here was a 13% increase in couples living together from 2009 to 2010. Census researchers . . . attributed the sharp increase to the recession[.]”

So far, and yet so near
By Ros Anderson, The Guardian (Apr. 12, 2008)

“...Research suggests that long-term couples who choose not to share a house are a growing phenomenon. ...[But] if more people than ever are doing it, is it accepted as a cultural norm? Not quite.”

Couples who live apart
By Allison Tait, The Sydney Morning Herald (Sept. 18, 2005)

“Committed, in love and ... happily living apart. While it might not work for everyone, for others it's the ideal arrangement.”

LAT: Living Apart Together
By Alison Beaver, EmpowerHER.com (Nov. 4, 2010)

“In a time when an increasing number of couples are eager to live together before marriage, a unique trend is occurring: married couples are choosing to live apart after marriage.”

A Home for Two Households
By Constance Rosenblum, New York Times (Feb. 18, 2011)

”Both were fiercely attached to their respective neighborhoods. ... Once they became a couple, they worked out a compromise. He spent weekends at her apartment, and they spent summers together ... on Cape Cod. 'But toward the end of the summer, when I knew we'd be coming back to our separate apartments, I began to feel very sad,' Ms. Berger said. 'I really wanted to live with Michael. We were getting older. It seemed like the time.'

Many couples choosing ‘commuter marriages’ to maintain good jobs
By Laurie Higgins, SouthCoastToday.com (Oct. 24, 2010)

“According to 2006 U.S. Census data, the most recent available, about 3.6 million married individuals lived apart then, not including people who were separated. And anecdotal evidence and word of mouth indicate this has been a rising trend since the recession began.”

Married Couples Who Live Apart: Separate But Awesome
By Anna North, Jezebel.com (June 24, 2010)

“[T]o me, a living situation where each person can retreat to a private space whenever necessary, to get a little privacy or recharge the flame of love with a tiny bit of scarcity, sounds pretty cool.”

Husbands, Wives and Hard Times
Room For Debate, NYTimes.com (Apr. 8, 2009)

“...In hard times, marital relationships are subject to a lot of stress. Are they likely to be threatened? Or possibly strengthened? What are the factors that might determine how a marriage will fare?”

To cohabit or not to cohabit?
By Rebecca Goldin, Ph.D., and Cindy Merrick, Stats.org (Oct. 22, 2010)

“...[D]oes premarital cohabitation increase the chance of the marriage breaking up? A recent report from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) has provoked an assortment of conflicting interpretations. ”

Married, but Sleeping Alone
By Bruce Feiler, New York Times (July 23, 2010)

“...Nearly one in four American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds, the National Sleep Foundation reported in a 2005 survey. Recent studies in England and Japan have found similar results. And the National Association of Home Builders says it expects 60 percent of custom homes to have dual master bedrooms by 2015.”

New Vow: I Don't Take Thee
By Conor Dougherty, WSJ.com (Sept. 29, 2010)

“...[D]ata released Tuesday by the Census Bureau show that for the first time the proportion of people between the ages of 25 and 34 who have never been married exceeded those who were married in 2009—46.3% versus 44.9% ...”

Living Together
By Tony Schwartz, Newsweek (Aug. 2, 1977)

“At the moment, the overwhelming majority of Americans still strongly disapprove of living together ‘without benefit of clergy,’ and even the people involved in those relationships find them not wholly comfortable. If the divorce rate continues to climb, widespread cohabitation may one day peacefully coexist with marriage, either as an interim option or as a practical alternative. But if it is to be the trend of the future, couples will discover that it is no magic solution: the problems of living together take as much time and effort to work out as the problems of modern marriage.”